| In this season of celebrating and gifting Love, Balaka Ghosal gifts us with her third piece in this series. It is one of those timeless pieces that goes “Beyond Valentine – Infusing Love Into Everydayness” as was shared in our new virtual event series earlier this month: “Weaving Stories Of Your WellBeing”. Balaka is our esteemed guest and co-host for this series and also sits on PureEsperanza’s Board. You can learn more about Balaka’s unique talents and gifts on her Bio and on our Community page.
Did it ever seem that everything is just fine with life? That you’ve finally gotten a hold on the overwhelm? If you’ve read my previous two blogs, Do You Have An Ikigai and Without A Finish Line, I too may have projected such a peace. As if I’ve mastered the ikigai while the whole world struggled to control the icky guys in their life. And that I had this curving road ahead where I knew exactly when to slow down and how much. All while I enjoyed the scenery, right? Wrong.
Not so fast, my friend. We’ve to slow down our conclusions, and the confidence as well. All that mastering is the ideal. And I’m pursuing that like many of us here. But the reality of life is the wind in the sail of life. When it goes limp leaving a ship lolling on the dull sea, there’s nothing but waiting out on the dead watery patch. Same with a storm—the ship’s fate pawned to the wind.
Stress can threaten our rational mind to collapse. Is it at all possible to avoid? Yes, even with our imperfections. If the journey toward the Ikigai, the perfect balance, is consistent like a defensive driver’s calmness in thick traffic and slowing down at the curves, we will be able to prevent a crash.
Journeys are never static. Neither is the speed. A driver’s right foot does its dance on the gas pedal, slowing and speeding as needed. Our speed varies and depending on the other cars we do our prudent, defensive driving.
A patient defensive driver is mindful of the moves and what the others are doing. The driver’s goal is fixed on the greater good with compassion, empathy, and the sheer will to reach the destination safely on time.
This we can do when anchored to our harmonious Ikigai. And it becomes an urgent-yet-beautiful journey without panic. The hindrances that come as a traffic accident or the rough driver next to us—we can steer clear without fear. If we’re persistent with our life goals, an obstacle is not going to affect us big time for long. The turtle that beat the hare is proof enough.
Quite like the gurgling water in a brook—its urgency not necessarily connected to speed. It’s the focus on the purpose. Intense speed is not always in our hands. We rather have to be patient when reality slows us down. Intensity never gets diluted by the apparent slowness.
For water, the innate call to flow never stops. Even when a sheer rock wall stops it to give it a shape of a lake. Every moment, each drop in the lake is looking for a gap or that overflow point because a call from the ocean is embedded in it. Though it might seem still, it’s earning to flow is deep.
When it again begins to flow, it meets the big rocks on the way. No complaint, no whine. It just goes around. And while finding its way around it also erodes the very rocks that stopped it. Even the gentlest of water does it. Only because the vast ocean beckons. And thereafter the clouds to reach to—to travel back to the mountains as rain, snow, sleet, and hail.
What is your vast ocean? Listen to its call and begin your earning to journey toward it. The path will show up. Never mind the curves, humps, and dumps. Never mind the long, endless path toward your irresistible calling. Even this trip without the finish line in sight is powered with joy. Enjoy your watery flow.